to Intimidate People
Intimidate. Everyone wants to be
able to do it, few have the testicoli
to make anyone flinch, much less
But mastering the art of intimidation
can and will go a long way to getting
what you want. The best intimidation
is the one that's implied. Any cafone
can point a gun; he's not scaring
anyone, his gun is.
You want people to fear you, but
you also want them to respect you,
and your power. A fool with a weapon
might get you to wet your pants,
but you'll never write a tribute
to him in The New York Times.
So let me take you through some
of the ways you can intimidate without
having to be 6'5" or 250 pounds.
build uncertainty & mystery
The best way to intimidate someone
who doesn't know you from a hole
in the wall is by being as mysterious
as possible. Be impossible to read.
Sure, not shaving, having a scowl
on your face, and wearing a trench
coat can help your look, but if
you don't know how to carry yourself,
whoever you are trying to intimidate
won't know the difference between
you and a Larry The Flasher.
The less someone knows about you,
the more you leave things open to
the imagination. The more blanks
your opponent fills, the less menacing
you are. It's that simple.
Everyone fears the unknown and uncertainty.
If you don't know what to expect,
you're more on guard. If someone
finds out you cry during chick movies,
well, guess what buddy? You won't
even intimidate your blow-up doll.
remain silent & composed
Another way to intimidate is by
never saying anything. Speak in
a short, direct, snappy way, and
the person across from you will
know you mean business. Don't smile,
don't blink, don't gulp, and don't
adjust your panties. Keep your voice
low and poised (now would be a good
time to practice your Marlon Brando
Look disgusted as if you just saw
someone having sex with a chicken,
bark your orders, and say nothing
else. Never, ever, repeat yourself.
They heard you the first time.
A well-timed act of violence can
certainly send a message, but most
of the time, you don't have to resort
to that. The mystery of a silent
threat is devastating.
Always be composed. Never show emotion.
Never flinch (it shows that you're
one scared little bastardo).
Let's not kid ourselves over here.
You look like a brute, you get instant
"intimidation cred." It's
So if it's something you want to
do, go to the gym and bulk up. Learn
some martial arts. Knowing a guy
had a black belt always made me
In the meantime, wear lots of layers.
Make yourself look solid. Don't
wear baggy pants or finocchio tight
shirts. You ain't scaring anybody,
have a crew
When I have a meeting with an "associate"
that hasn't been paying his tribute
on time, I always go accompanied.
These meetings are rare; I have
others in my crew that take care
of these things for me, but even
as a young ragazzo, I would bring
someone along even if I could turn
the guy into a pretzel with my hands
tied behind my back.
Having a posse is like having a
backup plan. When things go wrong,
the other guy has to deal with you
and your crew. No matter how strong
the other side is, having a half
dozen mean mothers standing next
to you, shoulder to shoulder, will
get the right message across.
let your reputation talk
Build up your reputation as a tough
son of a bitch, and that reputation
will do the talking for you. Be
someone no one should mess with,
screw up a couple of guys who have,
and people will whisper your name
like you're a bogeyman.
Hold grudges, seek out revenge,
make people pay for crossing you.
Go for bursts of anger, and check
out the moron who sent in an illiterate
We've got a big earner in my Family
who has an excellent record of collecting
his "dues" because he's
perceived as unbalanced. You know,
crazy, wacko, pazzo, whatever sweetens
He'll knock someone in his crew
unconscious, to show his "associates"
he's indiscriminate and short-tempered.
This guy is hilarious to watch in
action because I know it's an act
and, although he's one of the most
intelligent people I've ever met,
he comes across as a barbarian.
How does he intimidate? By being
unpredictable, not having a stable,
normal, logical MO, people are always
trying to figure him out. They can't,
because he's smart enough to freak
out in the most normal of circumstances
and be as cool as a Sicilian winter
night amid a bordello of chaos.
Does he get his message across despite
his instability? Do Italians do
it better? Of course. Because he's
You don't have to be violent to
show the other guy you have a screw
loose or that you're out of control.
Be a psycho, but a scary psycho;
let them fear your eyes. Never,
ever be nice or sensitive. You have
to put it in your head that you
are a cold, calculating machine.
Keep it short and sweet, and use
that voice, you know, the Brando
show anger in short bursts
When staying silent doesn't cut
it, and you have to make a point,
let it all out. Let that baby go
crazy. Short, powerful, even violent,
bursts of anger and rage would scare
Don't overdo it, don't go for an
Oscar. Make it short and sweet.
You scream for too long or bang
too many desks, people will tune
A good, powerful no can work well.
I can back up my words though, no
matter how extreme; you probably
can't. So don't make any threats
you can't deliver on.
The minute people question your
word, or you back out of a threat,
you've lost. Start running, they've
called your bluff. Game over.
send a messenger
What if people know of you, but
have never actually seen you? What
if you are known simply as a voice
on the other line? What if you always
send people in your name to take
care of business for you? What if
you are known simply as the boss
upstairs, but no one knows your
What happens the day you show up?
Everyone you've been dealing with
will have built-up expectations,
whether real or not, of who are
If you've been a hard arse from
afar, then you must be a harder
arse in person. It will be like
getting visited by God. You're curious,
but you're scared sh*tless too.
scary, like a clown
Intimidating somebody is an art
form if you don't have the tools
to back yourself up. Guys that are
heavy, they don't need tricks, they
walk around with an aura of intimidation
without even trying.
They are always confident and pretty
indifferent to your responses because
they know they can get you to do
whatever they want, despite your
When you're not in La Cosa Nostra,
when you're not made, when you don't
know kung fu, or know a guy that
knows a guy, etc., a little bit
of play acting is your only choice.
Remember to say little, be confident,
don't flinch, and never let them
see you sweat. If you are sweating,
then there's no hope for you, the
best you can do is hope you'll have
a nice burial.
Mama looks so pretty in a black
dress, doesn't she?
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